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UK – ‘The Church should beg society’s forgiveness for its treatment of gay people’ (Matthew Todd)
Apr 04 2012
In 1992, when I was 17, two years before Attitude magazine was started, a
vicar came to give a talk on sexual morality to our small Christian
Union lunchtime club at my school in South London. I went along with my
only gay friend – a chap in the year below me who had turned up at the
dodgy local youth group run in a man’s bedsit, a few months after me. We
weren’t out at school (we didn’t want to have our heads kicked in), so
we acted as if we were just interested in theological debate. At the end
my friend asked what the Church would say to young people who were gay.
“We’d recommend they have counselling”, was the reply. As we stormed
out to the tuck shop, my friend dropped his disguise by yelping, “Can
you believe that?! He said we should have counselling!”
Well, irony of ironies, that vicar was right. Both my friend and I
have ended up having counselling in the years since – not to try to turn
us straight as was suggested, but to deal with the aftermath of the
horrific messages that we, and every LGBT person of our generation, were
bombarded with as we grew up. You know, the usual: it’s unnatural,
immoral, evil, causes AIDS, would mean we would be lonely and could
never have relationships, etc. All that nice stuff.
Years later, despite all the advances of the past 20 years, it is the
Christian Church that still cannot give up its perverse obsession with
gay sex. Scotland’s Cardinal Keith O’Brien recently denounced the
governments proposals to allow same-sex couples to marry as grotesque;
last week the Archbishop of Canterbury described gay rights as a threat
to society, and on Newsnight last month Coalition for Marriage
spokesperson Sharon Jones suggested that birth rates dip in the
countries that allow same-sex marriage. Its website claims we could see a
threat to jobs, to the adoption of children, virtually to the future of
all humanity. I wouldn’t be surprised if they blame us for the price of
petrol next week. Sounds crazy but Stephen Green of Christian Voice, a
charming man whose ex-wife claims he beat her, also said last week that
the infestation of mice that recently shut a branch of Tesco was because
of its occasional support of gay causes. (Church mice, one gay website
suggested). They do, if I may so, talk like crazy people.
I am an adult now and the Church’s words bounce off me. I have no
respect for them whatsoever. But I find myself more enraged than ever
before about its irresponsibility in spouting the same old nonsense into
the ears of young people growing up and realising through no choice of
their own, that they may be gay, bisexual or transgender. It’s not an
easy time and what these kids need is understanding, love and support.
Instead, they get condemnation of biblical proportions. And it does have
an affect. It may sound brushoffable but you try growing up being told
that you may be a threat to society. For many, the words do sink in. We
know that adult gay people have higher rates of depression, suicide and
anxiety – not all, but significantly higher numbers – and it is because
of the damning cultural atmosphere whipped up by these leaders, who are
truthfully leaders in nothing but hypocrisy, and in the Catholic
Church’s case, the massive global sexual abuse of children. Really,
enough is enough. Of all the countless lives ruined, these repressed,
sexually dysfunctional people should not be allowed to determine the
course of anyone else’s future. Even in this past week, we have seen
reports of a Catholic priest in Northern Ireland accidentally projecting
(gay) sex images into a classroom wall in front of kids from a parish
memory stick, and news was reported that boys in the care of the Dutch
Catholic Church in the 1950′s were surgically castrated if they were
suspected of being homosexual.
In our new, 18th birthday issue of Attitude we show the reality of
our apparently Armageddon-inducing relationships – public servants such
as soldiers, fire fighters, two 21-year-olds recently engaged and one
couple in their late forties who have been together for more than 20
years. One was a trainee priest, the other played in the choir. Both of
them were committed Church goers who were embraced by the local parish
and community but ultimately driven away from the Church by its
obsession with attacking gays. And it is not just driving away gay
congregations. After O’Brien’s letter of condemnation was read out in
mass two weeks ago, I have heard of mothers of gay kids being reduced to
tears and reasonable straight folk who refused to sign their petition
getting into rows with their priests. The sad thing is that there are a
huge amount of gay people who do have a faith and wish to play an active
part. The Church has no idea how much damage it is doing to itself
before an entirely new generation that is too young to remember the
explicit hatred I and my generation lived through.
Like David Cameron’s rebranding of the Conservative Party with ‘the
gay issue’, the same is being done in reverse for the Church. It should
be begging forgiveness from society because of the LGBT people whose
lives it has diminished over the millennia. It should be doing all it
can to nurture and help all young people into becoming the upstanding,
caring citizens they can be, unfettered from sexual shame and dogma, and
it should be taking pride in an inclusive, embracing attitude that
celebrates all loving relationships, which are the fundamental essence
of God. Instead in 2012, as the social fabric of this country is feeling
more and more unstable, the Church has created a fierce battle over
something that will not harm, hurt or even affect anyone except the
couples who wish to marry. In doing so it has again shown itself as
being run by sexually obsessive, hard hearted, fear mongers. I pray
their God forgives them. A generation will not.
Matthew Todd
Editor of Attitude magazine & Stonewall Journalist of the Year
Matthew Todd: God Forgive Them
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